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Category Archives: Motivation

Unexpectedly Thankful: A Guest Post by Lara Krupicka, Family Bucket List Guru

By Heidi Smith Luedtke on November 12, 2013
Categories: Books, Children and emotions, Goals, Gratitude

Today we’re kicking off the Mom-to-Mom Gratitude Gala and Giveaway with the first in a series of guest posts on the topic of gratitude. My mom-writer friend and colleague, Lara Krupicka — author of the awesome ebook, Family Bucket Lists — is here to share her thoughts on letting kids dream their own dreams. And… [read more]

Let Them See You Sweat

By Heidi Smith Luedtke on January 7, 2013
Categories: Education, Goals, Self-development

When was the last time you did something so far outside your comfort zone that it made you anxious? I’m not talking about “What if this recipe flops and we have to order pizza?” jitters. I’m talking about “What if I made a complete fool of myself and have to cry it out in the… [read more]

Why We Should Tell Kids Learning is Difficult

By Heidi Smith Luedtke on October 19, 2012
Categories: Beliefs, Education, Motivation, Psychology Research, Self-confidence

Every parent wants to boost their child’s sense of optimism and self-confidence. But statements like “You’re so smart!” or “These problems are easy” might inadvertently undermine kids’ academic achievement. That’s because these phrases send the message that ability is fixed (you either have it or you don’t) and success should be effortless. A recent study… [read more]

Disappointed? Feel Your Way Forward

By Heidi Smith Luedtke on October 17, 2012
Categories: Detachment, Emotion, Happiness 101, mindfulness, Motivation, self-awareness

I like to focus on the positive whenever possible: Smiling activates good thoughts and feelings and sends welcoming signals to people around us. But constantly telling yourself to suck it up and act happy isn’t healthy. You (and I) have every right to feel let down, hurt, frustrated and angry sometimes. And it’s important that… [read more]

Want Change? Choose Action, Not Reflection

By Heidi Smith Luedtke on February 13, 2012
Categories: Cognitive Psychology, Emotion, Goals, Self-development

As a trained scientist, I engage in a lot of cause and effect thinking. Once we identify a cause, we can fix things. Right? Maybe. Some of you know that my grandmother recently learned she has cancer. After several scans, three biopsies and many, many doctor’s appointments, we found out her cancer is of “unknown… [read more]

3 Things You Need to Move beyond Aspiration to Achievement

By Heidi Smith Luedtke on January 12, 2012
Categories: Goals, Motivation, Psychology Research

There’s just something about the New Year that inspires us to believe we can do better, live better, be better than we’ve been in the past. The problem, of course, is that aspirations aren’t actions. They are wishes. And wishes don’t come true simply because we acknowledge them. To move from aspiration to achievement, you… [read more]

Where is Your BandWagon?

By Heidi Smith Luedtke on November 17, 2011
Categories: Goals, Motivation, People Skills, Work

While preparing for an interview with intrigue expert Sam Horn, a Washington, D.C.-based communication consultant, I read a statement that struck me with such force and created such clarity that I just had to share it with you. It said: “People can’t jump on your bandwagon if it’s in the garage.” Whether you’re planning… [read more]

Say No. Choose Your Yeses!

By Heidi Smith Luedtke on September 16, 2011
Categories: Goals, Limit Setting, People Skills, Relationships, Self-development

This week, for the first time ever, an expert I asked for an interview declined my request. She didn’t just ignore my emails, she said “No.” I won’t reveal her identity, but I will tell you that she is highly successful. She has a PhD, she’s a full professor at a demanding and well-respected university.… [read more]

Getting your Child to Sleep through the Night (or, “Psychologist, Change Thyself”)

By Heidi Smith Luedtke on September 6, 2011
Categories: Beliefs, Motivation, Parenting, Uncategorized

Perhaps you’ve heard the classic joke: “How many psychologists does it take to change a light bulb?” Answer: “Only one, but the light bulb has to really *want* to change. Today I’m checking in with some recent “light bulb moments.” You know, the a-ha moments when something you should have known all along hits you… [read more]

My Day Was Worse! One-Upmanship in Marriage

By Heidi Smith Luedtke on August 29, 2011
Categories: Motivation, Relationships, Social Psychology, Uncategorized

By nature, I’m a fairly competitive person. Not because I need to be better than everyone else, but because I value mastery and achievement. It feels good to do well. Not just to get the job done; to do it with excellence and finesse. Sometimes that achievement-oriented thinking serves me very well. I frequently set… [read more]

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Detachment Parenting is a terrific, go-to guide for those difficult moments in parenting. Dr. Luedtke's warm voice and user-friendly format make this book a pleasure to read. ---Harriet Lerner, Ph.D., author of The Dance of Anger and Marriage Rules: A Manual for the Married and the Coupled Up.
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Detachment Parenting is an excellent guide for busy parents. Broken down into easy-to-navigate sections, Heidi provides solutions to everyday problems that can help you step back, compose yourself, communicate more effectively and find peaceful solutions with your children in even the most difficult moments. As a mother of 3, I found this book to be practical, relevant and encouraging. My favorite tip is #27, Make Me Time and Space. Read it and find your favorite tip too. You’ll be glad you did! —April O’Leary, Life Coach, Author and Founder of UofMoms.com

Finally, a parenting e-book that tells us what to do and how to do it! As a parent…you are your child’s coping instructor. Unfortunately, when children spin out of control, parents often become reactive as opposed to proactive. Detachment Parenting gives parents concrete and creative strategies on how to respond in a productive, teaching way. This easy-to-use book is a must have for all who are faced with the most demanding profession on the planet…PARENTING! — Julia Cook, M.S., National Award Winning Children’s Author/Parenting Expert

As the mother of a 2-year-old, and a self-described “attachment parenting mom,” I found Heidi Luedke’s book, Detachment Parenting, to be an excellent source of realistic strategies to help me be the mom I want to be. The book easy to read and full of practical ideas I will use in my everyday life. For example, Detachment Parenting taught me what to do when I feel myself getting upset, and how to interact with my son when he is upset (including how to really listen to him and help him understand, label, and work through his feelings). This is a book I will come back to again and again! —Colleen Ament Rasey, mom of one very busy toddler

Psychologist and mom Heidi Luedtke has created an essential primer for parents of young kids. In this highly readable, to-the-point book, she helps parents learn to step out of frustrating meltdown-minefields by avoiding toxic emotional contagion, guiding kids toward emotion regulation, and building stronger, happier parent-child bonds. Each of her 33 tactics is thoroughly, expertly explained and easy to implement. You’ll wish you read it sooner! —Malia Jacobson, health journalist, mom of two, and author of Ready, Set, Sleep

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