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Category Archives: Self-development

What does mothering mean? And how do you mother yourself?

By Heidi Smith Luedtke on May 12, 2013
Categories: Coping skills for moms, Emotion, Holidays, Parenting, Self and identity, Self-development, Uncategorized

My writing coach and friend, Christina Katz, is currently hosting what must be the mother of all giveaways! Each year in May she celebrates moms and women authors with a giant book (and e-book) giveaway. You can see the list of authors and prizes here. To enter the drawing, readers must respond to the question… [read more]

Let Them See You Sweat

By Heidi Smith Luedtke on January 7, 2013
Categories: Education, Goals, Self-development

When was the last time you did something so far outside your comfort zone that it made you anxious? I’m not talking about “What if this recipe flops and we have to order pizza?” jitters. I’m talking about “What if I made a complete fool of myself and have to cry it out in the… [read more]

My Parenting New Year’s Resolution – Words of Affirmation

By Heidi Smith Luedtke on January 3, 2013
Categories: Parenting, People Skills, Self and identity, Self-confidence, Self-development, Traits, Uncategorized

“The way we talk to our children becomes their inner voice.” –Peggy O’ Mara Since I read this quote last month, it has been rattling around in my brain. It reminds me that language holds immense power – we can use words to educate, to inspire and to nurture. Or we can inadvertently drag… [read more]

Rewrite your Story

By Heidi Smith Luedtke on September 5, 2012
Categories: Beliefs, Cognitive Psychology, Emotion, Self-development

Some life events are so overwhelming that we simply get lost in a sea of emotions. A person who is fired from her job after years of positive performance reviews may feel angry, resentful and betrayed by her former supervisor. She may believe she was targeted by colleagues who were threatened by her abilities or… [read more]

See Your Self-Portrait

By Heidi Smith Luedtke on April 10, 2012
Categories: Beliefs, Personality, Self and identity, Self-development

If you painted a self-portrait, how would it look? Would you have tired eyes? An alluring smile? Too much junk in the trunk? Would you look fearful or brave? Lonely or eager? Frazzled or calm? Content or frustrated? Sad or satisfied? Happy? Excited? Overjoyed? Would your arms be open and relaxed, or crossed in front… [read more]

Want Change? Choose Action, Not Reflection

By Heidi Smith Luedtke on February 13, 2012
Categories: Cognitive Psychology, Emotion, Goals, Self-development

As a trained scientist, I engage in a lot of cause and effect thinking. Once we identify a cause, we can fix things. Right? Maybe. Some of you know that my grandmother recently learned she has cancer. After several scans, three biopsies and many, many doctor’s appointments, we found out her cancer is of “unknown… [read more]

Say No. Choose Your Yeses!

By Heidi Smith Luedtke on September 16, 2011
Categories: Goals, Limit Setting, People Skills, Relationships, Self-development

This week, for the first time ever, an expert I asked for an interview declined my request. She didn’t just ignore my emails, she said “No.” I won’t reveal her identity, but I will tell you that she is highly successful. She has a PhD, she’s a full professor at a demanding and well-respected university.… [read more]

6 Acts of Self-Compassion

By Heidi Smith Luedtke on September 13, 2011
Categories: Emotion, Psychology Research, Self-development

If you want to be truly happy, you can’t expect others to meet all your needs. You must treat yourself like you’d treat a treasured friend: with respect, compassion and a sense of humor. Here are six ways to be good to yourself. Do them all. When it comes to compassion, more is more. Write… [read more]

Talk Yourself Out of Social Insecurities

By Heidi Smith Luedtke on September 9, 2011
Categories: Beliefs, Emotion, Happiness 101, People Skills, Psychology Research, Relationships, Self and identity, Self-development

Everyone has some social insecurity. Jitters. Self-consciousness. Cold feet. Apprehension. “What does she think of me?” “I bet he won’t call.” “Do I look like a fool?” Our anxious thoughts swirl out of control, threatening to carry us out to sea where we’ll drown in our own self-defeating behavior. The script goes something like this:… [read more]

Let Little Successes Count

By Heidi Smith Luedtke on August 18, 2011
Categories: Beliefs, Cognitive Psychology, Goals, Health Research, Motivation, Self-development, Thinner Thursday

For this week’s #ThinnerThursday post, I had planned to write up some tips for maximizing the benefits of diary-keeping, but I’ve decided to put that off a week, because I think you need to see this: 15 minutes of exercise a day can extend life by three years. Super-quick summary: A new study published Tuesday… [read more]

Do you wish you were a calm, cool and kid-focused parent? Now you can be.
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Detachment Parenting is a terrific, go-to guide for those difficult moments in parenting. Dr. Luedtke's warm voice and user-friendly format make this book a pleasure to read. ---Harriet Lerner, Ph.D., author of The Dance of Anger and Marriage Rules: A Manual for the Married and the Coupled Up.
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Detachment Parenting is an excellent guide for busy parents. Broken down into easy-to-navigate sections, Heidi provides solutions to everyday problems that can help you step back, compose yourself, communicate more effectively and find peaceful solutions with your children in even the most difficult moments. As a mother of 3, I found this book to be practical, relevant and encouraging. My favorite tip is #27, Make Me Time and Space. Read it and find your favorite tip too. You’ll be glad you did! —April O’Leary, Life Coach, Author and Founder of UofMoms.com

Finally, a parenting e-book that tells us what to do and how to do it! As a parent…you are your child’s coping instructor. Unfortunately, when children spin out of control, parents often become reactive as opposed to proactive. Detachment Parenting gives parents concrete and creative strategies on how to respond in a productive, teaching way. This easy-to-use book is a must have for all who are faced with the most demanding profession on the planet…PARENTING! — Julia Cook, M.S., National Award Winning Children’s Author/Parenting Expert

As the mother of a 2-year-old, and a self-described “attachment parenting mom,” I found Heidi Luedke’s book, Detachment Parenting, to be an excellent source of realistic strategies to help me be the mom I want to be. The book easy to read and full of practical ideas I will use in my everyday life. For example, Detachment Parenting taught me what to do when I feel myself getting upset, and how to interact with my son when he is upset (including how to really listen to him and help him understand, label, and work through his feelings). This is a book I will come back to again and again! —Colleen Ament Rasey, mom of one very busy toddler

Psychologist and mom Heidi Luedtke has created an essential primer for parents of young kids. In this highly readable, to-the-point book, she helps parents learn to step out of frustrating meltdown-minefields by avoiding toxic emotional contagion, guiding kids toward emotion regulation, and building stronger, happier parent-child bonds. Each of her 33 tactics is thoroughly, expertly explained and easy to implement. You’ll wish you read it sooner! —Malia Jacobson, health journalist, mom of two, and author of Ready, Set, Sleep

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