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Category Archives: Psychology Research

Build Your Emotion Vocabulary

By Heidi Smith Luedtke on September 23, 2013
Categories: Brain and bioscience, Children and emotions, Cognitive Psychology, Coping skills for kids, Coping skills for moms

If you read this blog regularly, you know I’m a big believe in the power of emotion labeling. A person who says “I’m feeling really nervous about this audition” is in a much better position to cope with performance anxiety than a person who stands on stage behind the curtain wringing her hands and pacing… [read more]

Should Parents Hide Emotions From Kids?

By Heidi Smith Luedtke on September 17, 2013
Categories: Brain and bioscience, Children and emotions, Coping skills for moms, Detachment, Emotion

It seems like our families can’t get away from intense emotional situations, even if things at home are mostly routine. This week we’re bombarded by powerful images of the floods in Colorado and people fleeing from the Washington Navy Yard in the wake of a rampage shooting that killed 13 people. Tragedies like these can… [read more]

4 Ways to Make Thanksgiving Dinner Less Awkward

By Heidi Smith Luedtke on November 20, 2012
Categories: Psychology Research, Relationships, Social Psychology

Researcher Joshua Clegg just published a study on situational triggers of awkward feelings. Although he conducted this research in the lab, I suspect he could replicate it at Thanksgiving dinner tables around the country this week. Here’s what he learned. Participants reported intense feelings of awkwardness when they didn’t know what was expected of them.… [read more]

Why We Should Tell Kids Learning is Difficult

By Heidi Smith Luedtke on October 19, 2012
Categories: Beliefs, Education, Motivation, Psychology Research, Self-confidence

Every parent wants to boost their child’s sense of optimism and self-confidence. But statements like “You’re so smart!” or “These problems are easy” might inadvertently undermine kids’ academic achievement. That’s because these phrases send the message that ability is fixed (you either have it or you don’t) and success should be effortless. A recent study… [read more]

Want Better Relationships? Stow Your Cell Phone

By Heidi Smith Luedtke on October 8, 2012
Categories: People Skills, Psychology Research, Relationships

I’m always astounded by the number of people who spend their time looking at their mobile phones instead of their social companions. It’s not uncommon to see a family of four seated in a restaurant, staring at four different electronic devices. So much for quality time! A new study published in the Journal of Social… [read more]

Three Reasons to Smile

By Heidi Smith Luedtke on September 27, 2012
Categories: Emotion, Happiness 101, Psychology Research, Self-Care, Stress and Coping

In response to my last post on the upside of emotional contagion, my friend Mary Lou commented: “another good reason to smile often.” And I couldn’t agree more. In fact, when it comes to happiness I’d advocate a “fake it ‘til you make it” approach. Here are three reasons to put on a happy face.… [read more]

Four No-Cost Uplifts to Give Today

By Heidi Smith Luedtke on September 19, 2012
Categories: Books, Emotion, Friendship, Happiness 101, Health Research, Parenting, People Skills, Psychology Research, Relationships, Stress and Coping

These days we spend a lot of time complaining about how little time we have. And many of us struggle to make family and friends a priority because there are always more tasks on the to-do list. Last week, I encouraged you to give yourself daily uplifts. Today, I want you to give mood-boosting treats… [read more]

Small Stressors Add Up

By Heidi Smith Luedtke on September 13, 2012
Categories: Daily Hassles, Emotion, Psychology Research, Relationships, Self-Care, Stress and Coping

You’ve probably heard you shouldn’t sweat the small stuff (and that it’s all small stuff). The authors of the sweet little book with this title have surely made truckloads of money helping us all get perspective on our problems. At the risk of sounding alarmist, I say maybe you should sweat the small stuff. Here’s… [read more]

3 Things You Need to Move beyond Aspiration to Achievement

By Heidi Smith Luedtke on January 12, 2012
Categories: Goals, Motivation, Psychology Research

There’s just something about the New Year that inspires us to believe we can do better, live better, be better than we’ve been in the past. The problem, of course, is that aspirations aren’t actions. They are wishes. And wishes don’t come true simply because we acknowledge them. To move from aspiration to achievement, you… [read more]

Cool Concept: Facial Feedback

By Heidi Smith Luedtke on October 5, 2011
Categories: Emotion, Happiness 101, Psychology Research

When was the last time you smiled? Can’t remember? Psychologists who study the phenomenon of facial feedback show that smiling can be a cause of happiness, not just a consequence.That’s right. Smiling makes you feel better. Strack, Martin and Stepper (1988) conducted one early test of the facial feedback hypothesis, using a sneaky lab technique.… [read more]

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Detachment Parenting is an excellent guide for busy parents. Broken down into easy-to-navigate sections, Heidi provides solutions to everyday problems that can help you step back, compose yourself, communicate more effectively and find peaceful solutions with your children in even the most difficult moments. As a mother of 3, I found this book to be practical, relevant and encouraging. My favorite tip is #27, Make Me Time and Space. Read it and find your favorite tip too. You’ll be glad you did! —April O’Leary, Life Coach, Author and Founder of UofMoms.com

Finally, a parenting e-book that tells us what to do and how to do it! As a parent…you are your child’s coping instructor. Unfortunately, when children spin out of control, parents often become reactive as opposed to proactive. Detachment Parenting gives parents concrete and creative strategies on how to respond in a productive, teaching way. This easy-to-use book is a must have for all who are faced with the most demanding profession on the planet…PARENTING! — Julia Cook, M.S., National Award Winning Children’s Author/Parenting Expert

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Psychologist and mom Heidi Luedtke has created an essential primer for parents of young kids. In this highly readable, to-the-point book, she helps parents learn to step out of frustrating meltdown-minefields by avoiding toxic emotional contagion, guiding kids toward emotion regulation, and building stronger, happier parent-child bonds. Each of her 33 tactics is thoroughly, expertly explained and easy to implement. You’ll wish you read it sooner! —Malia Jacobson, health journalist, mom of two, and author of Ready, Set, Sleep

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