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Category Archives: Self-Care

4 Great Books for 4th of July – Confessions of a Military Wife

By Heidi Smith Luedtke on July 4, 2013
Categories: 4th of July Giveaway, Books, Deployment, Military Life, Relationships, Self-Care, Stress and Coping

On the final day of the 4 Great Books Giveaway, I’m happy to share a guest post from Marine Corps spouse, Mollie Gross, sassy military wife comedienne and author of Confessions of a Military Wife. You can read Mollie’s take on military life in her monthly column for Military Spouse magazine, too. Mollie’s ability to… [read more]

Are You In a Bad Mood? Change Your Words to Change Your Perspective

By Heidi Smith Luedtke on March 9, 2013
Categories: Children and emotions, Coping skills for kids, Coping skills for moms, Emotional Kids, Self-Care, Stress Management Techniques for Kids, Stress Management Techniques for Moms

The power of words never ceases to amaze me. And I don’t say that just because I am a writer. Words have a powerful influence on the way people experience the world. If you are in a bad mood, the chances are pretty good that it’s been caused — or complicated — by the words… [read more]

How to Break Out of Bad Moods

By Heidi Smith Luedtke on February 21, 2013
Categories: Detachment, Emotion, Parenting, Relationships, Self-Care, Stress and Coping, Work

Some days I think bad moods are more highly contagious than the flu. Sitting in stalled traffic on our morning commute, one driver honks and surges forward in frustration. Those around him start driving more aggressively as well. In classes or meetings, I sense the frustration of people around me and find myself growing impatient… [read more]

How to Tend to Your Own Emotions

By Heidi Smith Luedtke on December 17, 2012
Categories: Cognitive Psychology, Detachment, Emotion, Parenting, self-awareness, Self-Care, Stress and Coping, Uncategorized

In the wake of last week’s tragic shooting at Sandy Hook Elementary School, I feel a need to shift gears. My planned posts on gift-related rivalry and holiday family dynamics seem unimportant. Even disrespectful. It’s simply not possible to act as if nothing has happened. Raw sadness and anxiety bubble right below the surface. I’m… [read more]

Signed Detachment Parenting Paperbacks

By Heidi Smith Luedtke on November 14, 2012
Categories: Books, Detachment Parenting, Emotion, Parenting, People Skills, Relationships, Self-Care, Stress and Coping

Thanks to everyone who made my book launch so successful yesterday. Detachment Parenting: 33 Ways to Keep Your Cool When Kids Melt Down is ranked #58 in its category for Amazon Kindle books! It is so gratifying to make these techniques available to other parents — I appreciate each one of you who took time… [read more]

How to Handle Scary Suspenses

By Heidi Smith Luedtke on October 29, 2012
Categories: Emotion, Self-Care, Stress and Coping

Much of the northeastern United States is stuck in a tense state of suspense today, as we wait for Hurricane Sandy blow in. This kind of suspense can be hard to manage — you want to be well-prepared but you can’t plan for every possible peril. I’m sitting in my office right now wishing I… [read more]

No Mom is an Island

By Heidi Smith Luedtke on October 26, 2012
Categories: Friendship, Parenting, People Skills, Relationships, Self-Care, Stress and Coping, Uncategorized

It’s a bit of a paradox: Moms of young children seldom get any alone time. And yet — for many women — this stage of life feels lonely. Moms who stay home with young kids miss out on the friendships they had in the workplace. There’s no one around to commiserate when the kids are… [read more]

Three Reasons to Smile

By Heidi Smith Luedtke on September 27, 2012
Categories: Emotion, Happiness 101, Psychology Research, Self-Care, Stress and Coping

In response to my last post on the upside of emotional contagion, my friend Mary Lou commented: “another good reason to smile often.” And I couldn’t agree more. In fact, when it comes to happiness I’d advocate a “fake it ‘til you make it” approach. Here are three reasons to put on a happy face.… [read more]

Small Stressors Add Up

By Heidi Smith Luedtke on September 13, 2012
Categories: Daily Hassles, Emotion, Psychology Research, Relationships, Self-Care, Stress and Coping

You’ve probably heard you shouldn’t sweat the small stuff (and that it’s all small stuff). The authors of the sweet little book with this title have surely made truckloads of money helping us all get perspective on our problems. At the risk of sounding alarmist, I say maybe you should sweat the small stuff. Here’s… [read more]

Do you wish you were a calm, cool and kid-focused parent? Now you can be.
What People Are Saying

Detachment Parenting is a terrific, go-to guide for those difficult moments in parenting. Dr. Luedtke's warm voice and user-friendly format make this book a pleasure to read. ---Harriet Lerner, Ph.D., author of The Dance of Anger and Marriage Rules: A Manual for the Married and the Coupled Up.
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Detachment Parenting is an excellent guide for busy parents. Broken down into easy-to-navigate sections, Heidi provides solutions to everyday problems that can help you step back, compose yourself, communicate more effectively and find peaceful solutions with your children in even the most difficult moments. As a mother of 3, I found this book to be practical, relevant and encouraging. My favorite tip is #27, Make Me Time and Space. Read it and find your favorite tip too. You’ll be glad you did! —April O’Leary, Life Coach, Author and Founder of UofMoms.com

Finally, a parenting e-book that tells us what to do and how to do it! As a parent…you are your child’s coping instructor. Unfortunately, when children spin out of control, parents often become reactive as opposed to proactive. Detachment Parenting gives parents concrete and creative strategies on how to respond in a productive, teaching way. This easy-to-use book is a must have for all who are faced with the most demanding profession on the planet…PARENTING! — Julia Cook, M.S., National Award Winning Children’s Author/Parenting Expert

As the mother of a 2-year-old, and a self-described “attachment parenting mom,” I found Heidi Luedke’s book, Detachment Parenting, to be an excellent source of realistic strategies to help me be the mom I want to be. The book easy to read and full of practical ideas I will use in my everyday life. For example, Detachment Parenting taught me what to do when I feel myself getting upset, and how to interact with my son when he is upset (including how to really listen to him and help him understand, label, and work through his feelings). This is a book I will come back to again and again! —Colleen Ament Rasey, mom of one very busy toddler

Psychologist and mom Heidi Luedtke has created an essential primer for parents of young kids. In this highly readable, to-the-point book, she helps parents learn to step out of frustrating meltdown-minefields by avoiding toxic emotional contagion, guiding kids toward emotion regulation, and building stronger, happier parent-child bonds. Each of her 33 tactics is thoroughly, expertly explained and easy to implement. You’ll wish you read it sooner! —Malia Jacobson, health journalist, mom of two, and author of Ready, Set, Sleep

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