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Announcing the Mom to Mom Gratitude Gala and Giveaway

By Heidi Smith Luedtke on November 8, 2013
Categories: Uncategorized

November is a month when we celebrate all the good things we’ve been blessed with. My top three: a loving family, good health, and opportunities to learn and grow. During this month of Thanksgiving, I encourage you to find daily ways to recognize the abundant goodness in your life. I share 25 ideas for practicing… [read more]

4 Great Books for 4th of July – 1001 Things to Love About Military Life

By Heidi Smith Luedtke on July 1, 2013
Categories: 4th of July Giveaway, Books, Emotion, Military Life, Relationships, Uncategorized

Today I’m happy to share a guest post from the authors of 1001 Things to Love About Military Life – long-time military spouses Tara Crooks, Star Henderson, Kathie Hightower and Holly Scherer. Two of these spouses – Kathie and Star – are also veterans. All four inspire and encourage other spouses to get connected, be… [read more]

What does mothering mean? And how do you mother yourself?

By Heidi Smith Luedtke on May 12, 2013
Categories: Coping skills for moms, Emotion, Holidays, Parenting, Self and identity, Self-development, Uncategorized

My writing coach and friend, Christina Katz, is currently hosting what must be the mother of all giveaways! Each year in May she celebrates moms and women authors with a giant book (and e-book) giveaway. You can see the list of authors and prizes here. To enter the drawing, readers must respond to the question… [read more]

My Parenting New Year’s Resolution – Words of Affirmation

By Heidi Smith Luedtke on January 3, 2013
Categories: Parenting, People Skills, Self and identity, Self-confidence, Self-development, Traits, Uncategorized

“The way we talk to our children becomes their inner voice.” –Peggy O’ Mara Since I read this quote last month, it has been rattling around in my brain. It reminds me that language holds immense power – we can use words to educate, to inspire and to nurture. Or we can inadvertently drag… [read more]

How to Tend to Your Own Emotions

By Heidi Smith Luedtke on December 17, 2012
Categories: Cognitive Psychology, Detachment, Emotion, Parenting, self-awareness, Self-Care, Stress and Coping, Uncategorized

In the wake of last week’s tragic shooting at Sandy Hook Elementary School, I feel a need to shift gears. My planned posts on gift-related rivalry and holiday family dynamics seem unimportant. Even disrespectful. It’s simply not possible to act as if nothing has happened. Raw sadness and anxiety bubble right below the surface. I’m… [read more]

Celebrate a Spirit of Giving this Year

By Heidi Smith Luedtke on November 26, 2012
Categories: Uncategorized

My kids are easily impressed by TV infomercials. We have so many pillow pets that real pillows won’t fit in their beds anymore. Last year my son begged for the giant cupcake pan and the perfect meatloaf pan. (Apparently my cupcakes are too small and my meatloaf could be even closer to perfection!) This year… [read more]

100+ Things I am Thankful For

By Heidi Smith Luedtke on November 22, 2012
Categories: Uncategorized

In the spirit of Thanksgiving, I’m sharing 100+ Things I’m Thankful For. I hope this list inspires you to count your blessings, too. 1. Sloppy toddler kisses 2. A devoted (and sometimes silly) husband 3. Holding hands with my 5-year-old 4. Romantic comedies 5. Electronic books available for instant download 6. Apple pie a… [read more]

The Parenting Time Warp: Counting the Days Until My Half-Birthday

By Heidi Smith Luedtke on November 1, 2012
Categories: Cognitive Psychology, mindfulness, Parenting, Uncategorized

As I made the rounds tick-or-treating with my kids last night, I was reminded of how different their time perspective is from mine. Neighbors asked each child “How old are you?” and both replied with precision: Scooby proudly said “Two and a half!” and her knight-in-shining armor added “And I’m five and a half!” No… [read more]

No Mom is an Island

By Heidi Smith Luedtke on October 26, 2012
Categories: Friendship, Parenting, People Skills, Relationships, Self-Care, Stress and Coping, Uncategorized

It’s a bit of a paradox: Moms of young children seldom get any alone time. And yet — for many women — this stage of life feels lonely. Moms who stay home with young kids miss out on the friendships they had in the workplace. There’s no one around to commiserate when the kids are… [read more]

Break Out of the Reminder Rut

By Heidi Smith Luedtke on October 4, 2012
Categories: Uncategorized

In my last post, I offered tips for helping your child tune in to what you’re saying. But I know that as parents, we often say “My kids don’t listen” when what we mean is “My kids don’t do what I asked them to do.” Repeating the same requests can be really frustrating for everyone.… [read more]

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Detachment Parenting is a terrific, go-to guide for those difficult moments in parenting. Dr. Luedtke's warm voice and user-friendly format make this book a pleasure to read. ---Harriet Lerner, Ph.D., author of The Dance of Anger and Marriage Rules: A Manual for the Married and the Coupled Up.
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Detachment Parenting is an excellent guide for busy parents. Broken down into easy-to-navigate sections, Heidi provides solutions to everyday problems that can help you step back, compose yourself, communicate more effectively and find peaceful solutions with your children in even the most difficult moments. As a mother of 3, I found this book to be practical, relevant and encouraging. My favorite tip is #27, Make Me Time and Space. Read it and find your favorite tip too. You’ll be glad you did! —April O’Leary, Life Coach, Author and Founder of UofMoms.com

Finally, a parenting e-book that tells us what to do and how to do it! As a parent…you are your child’s coping instructor. Unfortunately, when children spin out of control, parents often become reactive as opposed to proactive. Detachment Parenting gives parents concrete and creative strategies on how to respond in a productive, teaching way. This easy-to-use book is a must have for all who are faced with the most demanding profession on the planet…PARENTING! — Julia Cook, M.S., National Award Winning Children’s Author/Parenting Expert

As the mother of a 2-year-old, and a self-described “attachment parenting mom,” I found Heidi Luedke’s book, Detachment Parenting, to be an excellent source of realistic strategies to help me be the mom I want to be. The book easy to read and full of practical ideas I will use in my everyday life. For example, Detachment Parenting taught me what to do when I feel myself getting upset, and how to interact with my son when he is upset (including how to really listen to him and help him understand, label, and work through his feelings). This is a book I will come back to again and again! —Colleen Ament Rasey, mom of one very busy toddler

Psychologist and mom Heidi Luedtke has created an essential primer for parents of young kids. In this highly readable, to-the-point book, she helps parents learn to step out of frustrating meltdown-minefields by avoiding toxic emotional contagion, guiding kids toward emotion regulation, and building stronger, happier parent-child bonds. Each of her 33 tactics is thoroughly, expertly explained and easy to implement. You’ll wish you read it sooner! —Malia Jacobson, health journalist, mom of two, and author of Ready, Set, Sleep

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