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Comments on: My Day Was Worse! One-Upmanship in Marriage https://www.heidiluedtke.com/2011/08/my-day-was-worse/ The Psychologist Next Door Tue, 02 Sep 2014 14:21:30 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=4.4.32 By: heidiluedtke https://www.heidiluedtke.com/2011/08/my-day-was-worse/#comment-30 Tue, 06 Sep 2011 16:21:31 +0000 http://www.heidiluedtke.com/?p=310#comment-30 I struggle with this, too. I think the answer to this pattern is the practice of self-compassion. It’s easy to seek comfort from someone else and hard to give it to yourself. But if we can give ourselves affirmation that times are tough and we’re going to be okay, then we’re freed up from needing to win the “my day was worse” competition. More on self-compassion to come.

]]> By: Yolanda https://www.heidiluedtke.com/2011/08/my-day-was-worse/#comment-29 Mon, 05 Sep 2011 20:09:14 +0000 http://www.heidiluedtke.com/?p=310#comment-29 SO true. I'm so glad you wrote about this. I think I instinctively knew this kind of dynamic led nowhere, but it's good to see it in writing and be reminded of the underlying motive in this kind of behavior. I'm constantly stepping back and catching myself when I feel the need to 'compete' with my own husband who is in fact an essential team partner in life.
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]]> By: heidiluedtke https://www.heidiluedtke.com/2011/08/my-day-was-worse/#comment-28 Thu, 01 Sep 2011 18:36:11 +0000 http://www.heidiluedtke.com/?p=310#comment-28 I have a hard time with this, too. The way to stay married is to shut up sometimes. That's easier said than done for some of us. 😉

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]]> By: Sandra https://www.heidiluedtke.com/2011/08/my-day-was-worse/#comment-27 Thu, 01 Sep 2011 04:27:54 +0000 http://www.heidiluedtke.com/?p=310#comment-27 I am the QUEEN of one-upmanship….oh geez, I just tried to one-up you on your own blog….
Honestly, I agree with everything you're saying, but in my home, I'm usually too tired to one-up my husband…because my days are always way worse than his….see, I did it again! :)

]]> By: Shell https://www.heidiluedtke.com/2011/08/my-day-was-worse/#comment-26 Wed, 31 Aug 2011 00:43:02 +0000 http://www.heidiluedtke.com/?p=310#comment-26 I try to take a deep breath and listen to my husband, let him complain for a while. And then I'll tell him about my day.

Though p.s. today? I win that competition, hands down! 😉
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