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Category Archives: Detachment Parenting

What’s Wrong with Attachment Parenting? Maybe nothing.

By Heidi Smith Luedtke on July 19, 2013
Categories: Detachment Parenting, Parenting

As the author of Detachment Parenting, I’m often asked “What’s wrong with attachment parenting?” because people assume detachment parenting must be the opposite of attachment parenting. But it’s not. At least not as I use the term Detachment Parenting. Actually, the techniques I describe for keeping your cool when kids melt down could be especially… [read more]

4 Great Books for 4th of July — Detachment Parenting

By Heidi Smith Luedtke on July 3, 2013
Categories: 3GT, 4th of July Giveaway, Books, Detachment Parenting, Military Life

Although I didn’t write Detachment Parenting specifically for military moms and dads, I’m sure my experience as a sometimes solo-parent was a big reason I wrote the book to begin with. Let’s face it: parenting young children is physically and emotionally demanding. Trying to keep it all together while your partner is half way around… [read more]

Does Detachment Parenting Stifle Self-Expression?

By Heidi Smith Luedtke on May 19, 2013
Categories: 3GT, Books, Children and emotions, Detachment Parenting, Parenting, Self and identity

My writing colleague and mentor, Christina Katz, is hosting a month-long giveaway of books written by women authors. Today, I’m happy to be the featured author. I am giving three copies of Detachment Parenting to three lucky winners. Hop by her site to read a quick interview I did with her on the topic of… [read more]

Stages of Motherhood: Take a Look on the Light Side

By Heidi Smith Luedtke on May 7, 2013
Categories: Children and emotions, Coping skills for moms, Detachment Parenting, Happiness 101, Parenting, self-awareness

In my article, Grow with the Flow (How to Thrive at Each Stage of Motherhood), I interviewed moms about their biggest challenges and joys at their current stage of parenting. The article appears in several regional parenting magazines this month, including Atlanta Parent. You can read it here. Of course, I gave each stage… [read more]

Teaching Kids about Disappointment (Or, Why I’m Not Going on the Kindergarten Field Trip)

By Heidi Smith Luedtke on May 6, 2013
Categories: Children and emotions, Detachment Parenting, Disappointment, Parenting

My son’s kindergarten field trip is coming up this week and I am sad to say I won’t be going. The kids will be visiting a historical sight here in northern Virginia, and the class is allowed to take 4 parent chaperones along for the adventure. In order to make it fair for all parents… [read more]

Recipe for a Perfect Holiday

By Heidi Smith Luedtke on December 10, 2012
Categories: Detachment Parenting, Happiness 101, Holidays

If you are anything like me, you’re hoping for the perfect holiday. And there’s no shortage of inspiring images to make you feel a little bit less than perfect. Case in point: Pinterest. It’s chock-full of gorgeous photos of holiday decorations, food and gifts I could never achieve. (For instance, this holiday cake is just… [read more]

Making Holidays More Meaningful

By Heidi Smith Luedtke on December 4, 2012
Categories: Detachment Parenting, Emotion, Holidays, mindfulness, Parenting

This year I’m taking my own advice about holiday planning: 1) I’m focusing in on three qualities I want, not thirty. They are: Togetherness Gratitude, and Fun 2) I’m buying fewer gifts and spending money on “together time” instead. We’re taking a (surprise) family trip to a southern vacation destination. We’ll spend time in nature… [read more]

10 Things I Know Right Now

By Heidi Smith Luedtke on November 16, 2012
Categories: Beliefs, Books, Detachment Parenting, Emotion, Parenting, self-awareness

My latest article, entitled “little know-it-alls,” came out yesterday in the December issue of Parents magazine. The idea for this piece came from a real-life Mommy moment, when I questioned my son Carson’s discovery of a “shark pod” on the Jersey Shore. If you read the article – go ahead and click over there, I’ll… [read more]

Signed Detachment Parenting Paperbacks

By Heidi Smith Luedtke on November 14, 2012
Categories: Books, Detachment Parenting, Emotion, Parenting, People Skills, Relationships, Self-Care, Stress and Coping

Thanks to everyone who made my book launch so successful yesterday. Detachment Parenting: 33 Ways to Keep Your Cool When Kids Melt Down is ranked #58 in its category for Amazon Kindle books! It is so gratifying to make these techniques available to other parents — I appreciate each one of you who took time… [read more]

Video Intro to Detachment Parenting by Author Heidi Smith Luedtke

By Heidi Smith Luedtke on November 13, 2012
Categories: Books, Detachment, Detachment Parenting, Emotion, Parenting, People Skills, Relationships

Woo Hoo!!! Launch day is finally here! I’m so excited to tell you what Detachment Parenting is all about. Watch my intro video to get the inside scoop: I’ll be making the rounds on social media today revealing more about the detachment parenting approach and answering the question you’re dying to ask: “Is Detachment… [read more]

Do you wish you were a calm, cool and kid-focused parent? Now you can be.
What People Are Saying

Detachment Parenting is a terrific, go-to guide for those difficult moments in parenting. Dr. Luedtke's warm voice and user-friendly format make this book a pleasure to read. ---Harriet Lerner, Ph.D., author of The Dance of Anger and Marriage Rules: A Manual for the Married and the Coupled Up.
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Detachment Parenting is an excellent guide for busy parents. Broken down into easy-to-navigate sections, Heidi provides solutions to everyday problems that can help you step back, compose yourself, communicate more effectively and find peaceful solutions with your children in even the most difficult moments. As a mother of 3, I found this book to be practical, relevant and encouraging. My favorite tip is #27, Make Me Time and Space. Read it and find your favorite tip too. You’ll be glad you did! —April O’Leary, Life Coach, Author and Founder of UofMoms.com

Finally, a parenting e-book that tells us what to do and how to do it! As a parent…you are your child’s coping instructor. Unfortunately, when children spin out of control, parents often become reactive as opposed to proactive. Detachment Parenting gives parents concrete and creative strategies on how to respond in a productive, teaching way. This easy-to-use book is a must have for all who are faced with the most demanding profession on the planet…PARENTING! — Julia Cook, M.S., National Award Winning Children’s Author/Parenting Expert

As the mother of a 2-year-old, and a self-described “attachment parenting mom,” I found Heidi Luedke’s book, Detachment Parenting, to be an excellent source of realistic strategies to help me be the mom I want to be. The book easy to read and full of practical ideas I will use in my everyday life. For example, Detachment Parenting taught me what to do when I feel myself getting upset, and how to interact with my son when he is upset (including how to really listen to him and help him understand, label, and work through his feelings). This is a book I will come back to again and again! —Colleen Ament Rasey, mom of one very busy toddler

Psychologist and mom Heidi Luedtke has created an essential primer for parents of young kids. In this highly readable, to-the-point book, she helps parents learn to step out of frustrating meltdown-minefields by avoiding toxic emotional contagion, guiding kids toward emotion regulation, and building stronger, happier parent-child bonds. Each of her 33 tactics is thoroughly, expertly explained and easy to implement. You’ll wish you read it sooner! —Malia Jacobson, health journalist, mom of two, and author of Ready, Set, Sleep

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