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Category Archives: People Skills

Blending Work and Life? Set Limits

By Heidi Smith Luedtke on September 27, 2011
Categories: Cognitive Psychology, Limit Setting, People Skills, Psychology Research, Relationships, Social Psychology

Meaningful work makes for a satisfying more life. Today, more and more people are blending their work lives and their personal lives. They’re working from home. They’re working from the sidelines at kids’ soccer practice. The internet allows many professionals to work whenever and wherever they may be. How liberating this can be. And how… [read more]

Listen Up: Be Aware of these Listening Errors

By Heidi Smith Luedtke on September 18, 2011
Categories: Cognitive Psychology, People Skills, Relationships, Uncategorized

It is often said that we have two ears and one mouth because we are supposed to listen twice as much as we talk. But effective listening requires us to use more than just our ears. Listening takes place in the brain. First, we must pay attention what we hear, screening out background noise and… [read more]

Say No. Choose Your Yeses!

By Heidi Smith Luedtke on September 16, 2011
Categories: Goals, Limit Setting, People Skills, Relationships, Self-development

This week, for the first time ever, an expert I asked for an interview declined my request. She didn’t just ignore my emails, she said “No.” I won’t reveal her identity, but I will tell you that she is highly successful. She has a PhD, she’s a full professor at a demanding and well-respected university.… [read more]

Talk Yourself Out of Social Insecurities

By Heidi Smith Luedtke on September 9, 2011
Categories: Beliefs, Emotion, Happiness 101, People Skills, Psychology Research, Relationships, Self and identity, Self-development

Everyone has some social insecurity. Jitters. Self-consciousness. Cold feet. Apprehension. “What does she think of me?” “I bet he won’t call.” “Do I look like a fool?” Our anxious thoughts swirl out of control, threatening to carry us out to sea where we’ll drown in our own self-defeating behavior. The script goes something like this:… [read more]

Five Pitfalls of Punishment

By Heidi Smith Luedtke on August 17, 2011
Categories: Motivation, People Skills, Psychology Research, Relationships, Uncategorized

The psychology definition of the week at About.com is punishment. As it so happens, I’ve been thinking a bit about punishment myself lately. Several events at home reminded me why we teach psychology students that punishment isn’t an effective way to control behavior. Here’s what I mean. 1. A lot of punishment models angry, aggressive… [read more]

Envy isn’t Evil: How to Use Your Social Emotions for Good

By Heidi Smith Luedtke on August 10, 2011
Categories: Emotion, Motivation, People Skills, Relationships

Lately, I’ve been envious. I’ve envied my husband for the hour-long workout he gets at lunch time. I’ve envied bloggers who attended BlogHer in San Diego, California, and psychologists who attended the American Psychological Association conference in Washington, D.C. last week. I’ve even envied my sick son who spent the better part of the last… [read more]

Tolerance is a Choice

By Heidi Smith Luedtke on July 11, 2011
Categories: Beliefs, Cognitive Psychology, People Skills, Psychology Research, Relationships

If you’re concerned that your kids, friends or coworkers see the world in black and white and you’d like to encourage more open-minded attitudes, new research suggests a personal approach. While you don’t want to condone racist speech or behavior, an authoritative response may backfire, according to a study by researchers at the University of… [read more]

Research Wrap-Up: The Benefits of Swearing

By Heidi Smith Luedtke on July 8, 2011
Categories: Brain and bioscience, Cognitive Psychology, Depression, Emotion, People Skills, Psychology Research, Relationships, Research Wrap-Up

You may be concerned that swearing in front of your kids models bad behavior or that coworkers will be offended if you blurt out a few choice words in the office. But psychological research shows swearing isn’t all bad. Studies show swearing has several benefits. 1) Swearing during painful medical procedures has been shown to… [read more]

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Detachment Parenting is a terrific, go-to guide for those difficult moments in parenting. Dr. Luedtke's warm voice and user-friendly format make this book a pleasure to read. ---Harriet Lerner, Ph.D., author of The Dance of Anger and Marriage Rules: A Manual for the Married and the Coupled Up.
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Detachment Parenting is an excellent guide for busy parents. Broken down into easy-to-navigate sections, Heidi provides solutions to everyday problems that can help you step back, compose yourself, communicate more effectively and find peaceful solutions with your children in even the most difficult moments. As a mother of 3, I found this book to be practical, relevant and encouraging. My favorite tip is #27, Make Me Time and Space. Read it and find your favorite tip too. You’ll be glad you did! —April O’Leary, Life Coach, Author and Founder of UofMoms.com

Finally, a parenting e-book that tells us what to do and how to do it! As a parent…you are your child’s coping instructor. Unfortunately, when children spin out of control, parents often become reactive as opposed to proactive. Detachment Parenting gives parents concrete and creative strategies on how to respond in a productive, teaching way. This easy-to-use book is a must have for all who are faced with the most demanding profession on the planet…PARENTING! — Julia Cook, M.S., National Award Winning Children’s Author/Parenting Expert

As the mother of a 2-year-old, and a self-described “attachment parenting mom,” I found Heidi Luedke’s book, Detachment Parenting, to be an excellent source of realistic strategies to help me be the mom I want to be. The book easy to read and full of practical ideas I will use in my everyday life. For example, Detachment Parenting taught me what to do when I feel myself getting upset, and how to interact with my son when he is upset (including how to really listen to him and help him understand, label, and work through his feelings). This is a book I will come back to again and again! —Colleen Ament Rasey, mom of one very busy toddler

Psychologist and mom Heidi Luedtke has created an essential primer for parents of young kids. In this highly readable, to-the-point book, she helps parents learn to step out of frustrating meltdown-minefields by avoiding toxic emotional contagion, guiding kids toward emotion regulation, and building stronger, happier parent-child bonds. Each of her 33 tactics is thoroughly, expertly explained and easy to implement. You’ll wish you read it sooner! —Malia Jacobson, health journalist, mom of two, and author of Ready, Set, Sleep