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Category Archives: Relationships

Grateful for Seasonal Friendships: A Guest Post by Christa Melnyk Hines, author of Confidently Connected

By Heidi Smith Luedtke on November 19, 2013
Categories: Friendship, Gratitude

Last week I kicked off the Mom-to-Mom Gratitude Gala and Giveaway with Lara Krupicka’s post about being grateful for disappointments. This week my writer friend and colleague Christa Melnyk Hines — author of Confidently Connected: A Mom’s Guide to a Satisfying Social Life — is here to share her gratitude for seasonal friendships. This topic… [read more]

What’s Wrong with Attachment Parenting? Maybe nothing.

By Heidi Smith Luedtke on July 19, 2013
Categories: Detachment Parenting, Parenting

As the author of Detachment Parenting, I’m often asked “What’s wrong with attachment parenting?” because people assume detachment parenting must be the opposite of attachment parenting. But it’s not. At least not as I use the term Detachment Parenting. Actually, the techniques I describe for keeping your cool when kids melt down could be especially… [read more]

4 Great Books for 4th of July – Confessions of a Military Wife

By Heidi Smith Luedtke on July 4, 2013
Categories: 4th of July Giveaway, Books, Deployment, Military Life, Relationships, Self-Care, Stress and Coping

On the final day of the 4 Great Books Giveaway, I’m happy to share a guest post from Marine Corps spouse, Mollie Gross, sassy military wife comedienne and author of Confessions of a Military Wife. You can read Mollie’s take on military life in her monthly column for Military Spouse magazine, too. Mollie’s ability to… [read more]

4 Great Books for 4th of July: Countdown ’til Daddy Comes Home

By Heidi Smith Luedtke on July 2, 2013
Categories: 4th of July Giveaway, Books, Coping skills for kids, Deployment, Military Life, Parenting, Relationships

On Day 2 of the 4 Great Military Spouse Books for 4th of July Giveaway, I welcome fellow Air Force spouse Kristin Ayyar, mom of three kids and author of Countdown ‘til Daddy Comes Home. Her gorgeous new children’s book helps parents prepare kids for a parent’s upcoming deployment and offers loads of creative ideas… [read more]

4 Great Books for 4th of July – 1001 Things to Love About Military Life

By Heidi Smith Luedtke on July 1, 2013
Categories: 4th of July Giveaway, Books, Emotion, Military Life, Relationships, Uncategorized

Today I’m happy to share a guest post from the authors of 1001 Things to Love About Military Life – long-time military spouses Tara Crooks, Star Henderson, Kathie Hightower and Holly Scherer. Two of these spouses – Kathie and Star – are also veterans. All four inspire and encourage other spouses to get connected, be… [read more]

Summertime Celebration of Military Wife Life – 4 Great Books for the 4th of July Giveaway

By Heidi Smith Luedtke on June 29, 2013
Categories: 4th of July Giveaway, Books, Military Life, Relationships

As a mom, I see summer as a time of transition. My big kid is moving up from kindergarten to 1st grade, and he’s eager to show the new kindergarteners the ropes next fall. Apparently, he’s still an expert at everything — just like I described in this article in Parents Magazine, Preschool Know-It-All. My… [read more]

Does Detachment Parenting Stifle Self-Expression?

By Heidi Smith Luedtke on May 19, 2013
Categories: 3GT, Books, Children and emotions, Detachment Parenting, Parenting, Self and identity

My writing colleague and mentor, Christina Katz, is hosting a month-long giveaway of books written by women authors. Today, I’m happy to be the featured author. I am giving three copies of Detachment Parenting to three lucky winners. Hop by her site to read a quick interview I did with her on the topic of… [read more]

What does mothering mean? And how do you mother yourself?

By Heidi Smith Luedtke on May 12, 2013
Categories: Coping skills for moms, Emotion, Holidays, Parenting, Self and identity, Self-development, Uncategorized

My writing coach and friend, Christina Katz, is currently hosting what must be the mother of all giveaways! Each year in May she celebrates moms and women authors with a giant book (and e-book) giveaway. You can see the list of authors and prizes here. To enter the drawing, readers must respond to the question… [read more]

Stages of Motherhood: Take a Look on the Light Side

By Heidi Smith Luedtke on May 7, 2013
Categories: Children and emotions, Coping skills for moms, Detachment Parenting, Happiness 101, Parenting, self-awareness

In my article, Grow with the Flow (How to Thrive at Each Stage of Motherhood), I interviewed moms about their biggest challenges and joys at their current stage of parenting. The article appears in several regional parenting magazines this month, including Atlanta Parent. You can read it here. Of course, I gave each stage… [read more]

Teaching Kids about Disappointment (Or, Why I’m Not Going on the Kindergarten Field Trip)

By Heidi Smith Luedtke on May 6, 2013
Categories: Children and emotions, Detachment Parenting, Disappointment, Parenting

My son’s kindergarten field trip is coming up this week and I am sad to say I won’t be going. The kids will be visiting a historical sight here in northern Virginia, and the class is allowed to take 4 parent chaperones along for the adventure. In order to make it fair for all parents… [read more]

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Detachment Parenting is a terrific, go-to guide for those difficult moments in parenting. Dr. Luedtke's warm voice and user-friendly format make this book a pleasure to read. ---Harriet Lerner, Ph.D., author of The Dance of Anger and Marriage Rules: A Manual for the Married and the Coupled Up.
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Detachment Parenting is an excellent guide for busy parents. Broken down into easy-to-navigate sections, Heidi provides solutions to everyday problems that can help you step back, compose yourself, communicate more effectively and find peaceful solutions with your children in even the most difficult moments. As a mother of 3, I found this book to be practical, relevant and encouraging. My favorite tip is #27, Make Me Time and Space. Read it and find your favorite tip too. You’ll be glad you did! —April O’Leary, Life Coach, Author and Founder of UofMoms.com

Finally, a parenting e-book that tells us what to do and how to do it! As a parent…you are your child’s coping instructor. Unfortunately, when children spin out of control, parents often become reactive as opposed to proactive. Detachment Parenting gives parents concrete and creative strategies on how to respond in a productive, teaching way. This easy-to-use book is a must have for all who are faced with the most demanding profession on the planet…PARENTING! — Julia Cook, M.S., National Award Winning Children’s Author/Parenting Expert

As the mother of a 2-year-old, and a self-described “attachment parenting mom,” I found Heidi Luedke’s book, Detachment Parenting, to be an excellent source of realistic strategies to help me be the mom I want to be. The book easy to read and full of practical ideas I will use in my everyday life. For example, Detachment Parenting taught me what to do when I feel myself getting upset, and how to interact with my son when he is upset (including how to really listen to him and help him understand, label, and work through his feelings). This is a book I will come back to again and again! —Colleen Ament Rasey, mom of one very busy toddler

Psychologist and mom Heidi Luedtke has created an essential primer for parents of young kids. In this highly readable, to-the-point book, she helps parents learn to step out of frustrating meltdown-minefields by avoiding toxic emotional contagion, guiding kids toward emotion regulation, and building stronger, happier parent-child bonds. Each of her 33 tactics is thoroughly, expertly explained and easy to implement. You’ll wish you read it sooner! —Malia Jacobson, health journalist, mom of two, and author of Ready, Set, Sleep

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