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Category Archives: Relationships

How to Break Out of Bad Moods

By Heidi Smith Luedtke on February 21, 2013
Categories: Detachment, Emotion, Parenting, Relationships, Self-Care, Stress and Coping, Work

Some days I think bad moods are more highly contagious than the flu. Sitting in stalled traffic on our morning commute, one driver honks and surges forward in frustration. Those around him start driving more aggressively as well. In classes or meetings, I sense the frustration of people around me and find myself growing impatient… [read more]

My Parenting New Year’s Resolution – Words of Affirmation

By Heidi Smith Luedtke on January 3, 2013
Categories: Parenting, People Skills, Self and identity, Self-confidence, Self-development, Traits, Uncategorized

“The way we talk to our children becomes their inner voice.” –Peggy O’ Mara Since I read this quote last month, it has been rattling around in my brain. It reminds me that language holds immense power – we can use words to educate, to inspire and to nurture. Or we can inadvertently drag… [read more]

How to Tend to Your Own Emotions

By Heidi Smith Luedtke on December 17, 2012
Categories: Cognitive Psychology, Detachment, Emotion, Parenting, self-awareness, Self-Care, Stress and Coping, Uncategorized

In the wake of last week’s tragic shooting at Sandy Hook Elementary School, I feel a need to shift gears. My planned posts on gift-related rivalry and holiday family dynamics seem unimportant. Even disrespectful. It’s simply not possible to act as if nothing has happened. Raw sadness and anxiety bubble right below the surface. I’m… [read more]

I’m the Worstest Mom Ever!

By Heidi Smith Luedtke on December 7, 2012
Categories: Limit Setting, Parenting

Forget about that Dad in England who got oodles of media attention for the tough-love letter his adult child leaked to the press recently. I won a parenting award this week. Well, actually two awards. My son, Carson, gave me the coveted titles of “Meanest Mom Ever” and – when he still didn’t get what… [read more]

Making Holidays More Meaningful

By Heidi Smith Luedtke on December 4, 2012
Categories: Detachment Parenting, Emotion, Holidays, mindfulness, Parenting

This year I’m taking my own advice about holiday planning: 1) I’m focusing in on three qualities I want, not thirty. They are: Togetherness Gratitude, and Fun 2) I’m buying fewer gifts and spending money on “together time” instead. We’re taking a (surprise) family trip to a southern vacation destination. We’ll spend time in nature… [read more]

4 Ways to Make Thanksgiving Dinner Less Awkward

By Heidi Smith Luedtke on November 20, 2012
Categories: Psychology Research, Relationships, Social Psychology

Researcher Joshua Clegg just published a study on situational triggers of awkward feelings. Although he conducted this research in the lab, I suspect he could replicate it at Thanksgiving dinner tables around the country this week. Here’s what he learned. Participants reported intense feelings of awkwardness when they didn’t know what was expected of them.… [read more]

10 Things I Know Right Now

By Heidi Smith Luedtke on November 16, 2012
Categories: Beliefs, Books, Detachment Parenting, Emotion, Parenting, self-awareness

My latest article, entitled “little know-it-alls,” came out yesterday in the December issue of Parents magazine. The idea for this piece came from a real-life Mommy moment, when I questioned my son Carson’s discovery of a “shark pod” on the Jersey Shore. If you read the article – go ahead and click over there, I’ll… [read more]

Signed Detachment Parenting Paperbacks

By Heidi Smith Luedtke on November 14, 2012
Categories: Books, Detachment Parenting, Emotion, Parenting, People Skills, Relationships, Self-Care, Stress and Coping

Thanks to everyone who made my book launch so successful yesterday. Detachment Parenting: 33 Ways to Keep Your Cool When Kids Melt Down is ranked #58 in its category for Amazon Kindle books! It is so gratifying to make these techniques available to other parents — I appreciate each one of you who took time… [read more]

Video Intro to Detachment Parenting by Author Heidi Smith Luedtke

By Heidi Smith Luedtke on November 13, 2012
Categories: Books, Detachment, Detachment Parenting, Emotion, Parenting, People Skills, Relationships

Woo Hoo!!! Launch day is finally here! I’m so excited to tell you what Detachment Parenting is all about. Watch my intro video to get the inside scoop: I’ll be making the rounds on social media today revealing more about the detachment parenting approach and answering the question you’re dying to ask: “Is Detachment… [read more]

Announcing the Official Launch of Detachment Parenting

By Heidi Smith Luedtke on November 10, 2012
Categories: Books, Detachment, Detachment Parenting, Emotion, Parenting, Stress and Coping

With only 3 days left before the official launch of my first e-book, Detachment Parenting: 33 Ways to Keep Your Cool When Kids Melt Down, there’s a buzz of excitement in the air. And (yes!) I have a checklist of last-minute tasks to accomplish. I feel a little like the scientists at NASA counting down… [read more]

Do you wish you were a calm, cool and kid-focused parent? Now you can be.
What People Are Saying

Detachment Parenting is a terrific, go-to guide for those difficult moments in parenting. Dr. Luedtke's warm voice and user-friendly format make this book a pleasure to read. ---Harriet Lerner, Ph.D., author of The Dance of Anger and Marriage Rules: A Manual for the Married and the Coupled Up.
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Detachment Parenting is an excellent guide for busy parents. Broken down into easy-to-navigate sections, Heidi provides solutions to everyday problems that can help you step back, compose yourself, communicate more effectively and find peaceful solutions with your children in even the most difficult moments. As a mother of 3, I found this book to be practical, relevant and encouraging. My favorite tip is #27, Make Me Time and Space. Read it and find your favorite tip too. You’ll be glad you did! —April O’Leary, Life Coach, Author and Founder of UofMoms.com

Finally, a parenting e-book that tells us what to do and how to do it! As a parent…you are your child’s coping instructor. Unfortunately, when children spin out of control, parents often become reactive as opposed to proactive. Detachment Parenting gives parents concrete and creative strategies on how to respond in a productive, teaching way. This easy-to-use book is a must have for all who are faced with the most demanding profession on the planet…PARENTING! — Julia Cook, M.S., National Award Winning Children’s Author/Parenting Expert

As the mother of a 2-year-old, and a self-described “attachment parenting mom,” I found Heidi Luedke’s book, Detachment Parenting, to be an excellent source of realistic strategies to help me be the mom I want to be. The book easy to read and full of practical ideas I will use in my everyday life. For example, Detachment Parenting taught me what to do when I feel myself getting upset, and how to interact with my son when he is upset (including how to really listen to him and help him understand, label, and work through his feelings). This is a book I will come back to again and again! —Colleen Ament Rasey, mom of one very busy toddler

Psychologist and mom Heidi Luedtke has created an essential primer for parents of young kids. In this highly readable, to-the-point book, she helps parents learn to step out of frustrating meltdown-minefields by avoiding toxic emotional contagion, guiding kids toward emotion regulation, and building stronger, happier parent-child bonds. Each of her 33 tactics is thoroughly, expertly explained and easy to implement. You’ll wish you read it sooner! —Malia Jacobson, health journalist, mom of two, and author of Ready, Set, Sleep

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