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3 Things You Need to Move beyond Aspiration to Achievement

By Heidi Smith Luedtke on January 12, 2012
Categories: Goals, Motivation, Psychology Research

There’s just something about the New Year that inspires us to believe we can do better, live better, be better than we’ve been in the past. The problem, of course, is that aspirations aren’t actions. They are wishes. And wishes don’t come true simply because we acknowledge them. To move from aspiration to achievement, you… [read more]

Where is Your BandWagon?

By Heidi Smith Luedtke on November 17, 2011
Categories: Goals, Motivation, People Skills, Work

While preparing for an interview with intrigue expert Sam Horn, a Washington, D.C.-based communication consultant, I read a statement that struck me with such force and created such clarity that I just had to share it with you. It said: “People can’t jump on your bandwagon if it’s in the garage.” Whether you’re planning… [read more]

Say No. Choose Your Yeses!

By Heidi Smith Luedtke on September 16, 2011
Categories: Goals, Limit Setting, People Skills, Relationships, Self-development

This week, for the first time ever, an expert I asked for an interview declined my request. She didn’t just ignore my emails, she said “No.” I won’t reveal her identity, but I will tell you that she is highly successful. She has a PhD, she’s a full professor at a demanding and well-respected university.… [read more]

6 Acts of Self-Compassion

By Heidi Smith Luedtke on September 13, 2011
Categories: Emotion, Psychology Research, Self-development

If you want to be truly happy, you can’t expect others to meet all your needs. You must treat yourself like you’d treat a treasured friend: with respect, compassion and a sense of humor. Here are six ways to be good to yourself. Do them all. When it comes to compassion, more is more. Write… [read more]

Talk Yourself Out of Social Insecurities

By Heidi Smith Luedtke on September 9, 2011
Categories: Beliefs, Emotion, Happiness 101, People Skills, Psychology Research, Relationships, Self and identity, Self-development

Everyone has some social insecurity. Jitters. Self-consciousness. Cold feet. Apprehension. “What does she think of me?” “I bet he won’t call.” “Do I look like a fool?” Our anxious thoughts swirl out of control, threatening to carry us out to sea where we’ll drown in our own self-defeating behavior. The script goes something like this:… [read more]

Getting your Child to Sleep through the Night (or, “Psychologist, Change Thyself”)

By Heidi Smith Luedtke on September 6, 2011
Categories: Beliefs, Motivation, Parenting, Uncategorized

Perhaps you’ve heard the classic joke: “How many psychologists does it take to change a light bulb?” Answer: “Only one, but the light bulb has to really *want* to change. Today I’m checking in with some recent “light bulb moments.” You know, the a-ha moments when something you should have known all along hits you… [read more]

My Day Was Worse! One-Upmanship in Marriage

By Heidi Smith Luedtke on August 29, 2011
Categories: Motivation, Relationships, Social Psychology, Uncategorized

By nature, I’m a fairly competitive person. Not because I need to be better than everyone else, but because I value mastery and achievement. It feels good to do well. Not just to get the job done; to do it with excellence and finesse. Sometimes that achievement-oriented thinking serves me very well. I frequently set… [read more]

Mindlessly (Better) Eating

By Heidi Smith Luedtke on August 25, 2011
Categories: Cognitive Psychology, Goals, Psychology Research, Thinner Thursday

If you’re trying to eat better, forget will power. Think: environmental engineering. Social and consumer psychologists who study eating behavior suggest these simple and effective strategies for downsizing your waistline. Read on for 3 more ways to psych yourself skinny. 1) Cut calories before eating. If you want to eat a little bit less each… [read more]

Let Little Successes Count

By Heidi Smith Luedtke on August 18, 2011
Categories: Beliefs, Cognitive Psychology, Goals, Health Research, Motivation, Self-development, Thinner Thursday

For this week’s #ThinnerThursday post, I had planned to write up some tips for maximizing the benefits of diary-keeping, but I’ve decided to put that off a week, because I think you need to see this: 15 minutes of exercise a day can extend life by three years. Super-quick summary: A new study published Tuesday… [read more]

Five Pitfalls of Punishment

By Heidi Smith Luedtke on August 17, 2011
Categories: Motivation, People Skills, Psychology Research, Relationships, Uncategorized

The psychology definition of the week at About.com is punishment. As it so happens, I’ve been thinking a bit about punishment myself lately. Several events at home reminded me why we teach psychology students that punishment isn’t an effective way to control behavior. Here’s what I mean. 1. A lot of punishment models angry, aggressive… [read more]

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Detachment Parenting is a terrific, go-to guide for those difficult moments in parenting. Dr. Luedtke's warm voice and user-friendly format make this book a pleasure to read. ---Harriet Lerner, Ph.D., author of The Dance of Anger and Marriage Rules: A Manual for the Married and the Coupled Up.
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Detachment Parenting is an excellent guide for busy parents. Broken down into easy-to-navigate sections, Heidi provides solutions to everyday problems that can help you step back, compose yourself, communicate more effectively and find peaceful solutions with your children in even the most difficult moments. As a mother of 3, I found this book to be practical, relevant and encouraging. My favorite tip is #27, Make Me Time and Space. Read it and find your favorite tip too. You’ll be glad you did! —April O’Leary, Life Coach, Author and Founder of UofMoms.com

Finally, a parenting e-book that tells us what to do and how to do it! As a parent…you are your child’s coping instructor. Unfortunately, when children spin out of control, parents often become reactive as opposed to proactive. Detachment Parenting gives parents concrete and creative strategies on how to respond in a productive, teaching way. This easy-to-use book is a must have for all who are faced with the most demanding profession on the planet…PARENTING! — Julia Cook, M.S., National Award Winning Children’s Author/Parenting Expert

As the mother of a 2-year-old, and a self-described “attachment parenting mom,” I found Heidi Luedke’s book, Detachment Parenting, to be an excellent source of realistic strategies to help me be the mom I want to be. The book easy to read and full of practical ideas I will use in my everyday life. For example, Detachment Parenting taught me what to do when I feel myself getting upset, and how to interact with my son when he is upset (including how to really listen to him and help him understand, label, and work through his feelings). This is a book I will come back to again and again! —Colleen Ament Rasey, mom of one very busy toddler

Psychologist and mom Heidi Luedtke has created an essential primer for parents of young kids. In this highly readable, to-the-point book, she helps parents learn to step out of frustrating meltdown-minefields by avoiding toxic emotional contagion, guiding kids toward emotion regulation, and building stronger, happier parent-child bonds. Each of her 33 tactics is thoroughly, expertly explained and easy to implement. You’ll wish you read it sooner! —Malia Jacobson, health journalist, mom of two, and author of Ready, Set, Sleep

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